[mormegil]

hi i know there is no right or wrong answer to this but am interested in peoples opinions. first i want to explain why im asking this question.

I have always though cheating was wrong and that people did it because they didnt love the person they were with and where basically immoral. when my ex cheated on me and got pregnant with someone else that really strengthened my feelings on the subject.

i have now been with my current girlfriend for just over 2 years (2 years and 3 weeks to be precise) and we used to have great sex. however we had a couple of set backs. we had a condom split twice on two different occasions which ended on us having to get the morning after pill. my girlfriend then went on the pill and it made her ill so she got the implant which made her period all the time so she had low blood levels so she had that out. after all these problems she doesnt like sex anymore. we have had sex once in the last year and a half and that was 9 months ago. occasionally we will have foreplay but she doesnt want sex because of all the problems we have had. i have (i feel) been understanding. i dont pressure her into anything she doesnt want to do and i support her through anything she wants to do or is having trouble with.

now to the point. i have a relatively high sex drive and have to make do with masturbation to keep satisfied. but there is a girl at work who has made no secret of liking me. we went out for a works do and she asked me to come back to her flat to have sex with her. i refused. 2 weeks later i had to go up to head office for an overnight training course and it was just the 2 of us and we had to stay overnight in the same hotel. she tried to get me to sleep with her in her room. again i refused. then she started emailing me pictures of herself having sex and playing with dildos etc and said she would fulfill all my fantasies. (my main fantasy is anal sex with my girlfriend but she thinks its disgusting) i again refused and deleted all the emails and pictures. there is also another girl who is interested in me but has not made persistent moves like the other girl.

i have always remained faithful to my girlfriend and have never considered cheating on her. but i have started to wonder if perhaps people dont cheat because they dont love the person they are with but because they have needs to be fulfilled?. both me and my girlfriend have been cheated on and so would not cheat on each other. (plus we have a good relationship we spend a lot of time together and everything is good and she is really clingy over me and gives none of the signs of cheating) so my question is, is it wrong to cheat or is it in some ways ok.