Hearing from others that I'm not crazy helped quite a bit. I put my foot down and this time when we talked, I didn't feel bad for standing firm on saying I need certain things out of a relationship.
He confessed he has had a fear the relationship might turn into a sex-focused one, because the sex is above average for both of us. If I understand him correctly, he's been putting the brakes on things to force us to spend time doing other activities. Well, we tried it his way for the past 9 yrs and it's not working, so something's got to change. He's promised to do his best to let go of this fear, so time will tell.
Thanks everyone for helping me put this into perspective.
I do feel like he doesn't appreciate how good he has it. I see him trying. He just doesn't get it when it comes to some things.
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The ugly facts are that as you get older, your sex drive will ramp up and go through the roof while his...well, it isn't going to get any better than it is now."
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He's about 7 yrs younger than me. When we first met he was age 19-20, so I admittedly was intrigued by his youthful energy. It's harder to date guys more than about 7-10 years younger. I'd feel like I'd be robbing the cradle.
The dilemma about quitting a relationship because sex isn't very frequent: if I become single, I'll end up with zero sex. Zero is definitely no fun!