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Certainly her past helps to shape her thinking. But instead of holding her past against her, a person in your position should be using it as a lens through which to view, and attempt to understand, that thinking.
At only 6 weeks along in a relationship, misunderstanding each other's comments can still happen. Hell, I'm almost 2 years into one and we still misunderstand each other now and again. It just happens. The way you get through it is by continuing to work on good communication. Earnestly listen to, and respect, the other's point of view, and then respond earnestly and respectfully. I once read in someone's ground rules for arguments with their mate something to the affect of: speak without attacking, and listen without defending. Just because she received something you said in a way that you didn't intend it, doesn't invalidate her feelings, it just means something got lost in translation. You have to figure out each other's vocabulary, if you follow me. And 'always' and 'never' are rarely accurate...don't make those accusations, especially in a moment where she misunderstood what you said--it only makes matters worse. Instead of 'no, you took that wrong', the sentiment you're after is 'no, what I meant was...'. Don't invalidate her, clarify yourself.
Does that help?
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