> if i'm sober i finish off in five or ten. is that normal?
Yes. Please read around the site or do a site search on the topic of Premature Ejaculation or PE. Much has been written about the matter.
Now, having said that, you will be happy to know that you are not afflicted by this; however, the fix is the same. Please read this article:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation
The difference between the two is time. PE occurs within the first minute or so and within the first couple of strokes. You are lasting about ten minutes and quite frankly this is the maximum many women report as being about the maximum length of time they can tolerate before becoming
sore, bored, and, tired. So, truth be told, you are right on target and are not deficient in any way!
If you want to extend intercourse, then do so in short(er) increments with lots of fooling around and
making out in between. For more information on this, please go to the Index and read the articles on the topic. If you believe the best way to achieve a climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking, then you are going about it all wrong. This is the purpose of all the making out part of the session. Devote no less that half an hour just to this before ever getting to the foreplay portion.
Lastly, stop drinking; you will enjoy sex more than you do when you do. Adopting the right methodology for making love and you will no longer have the need to drink.
> I shave it clean maybe once a week.... is that weird to most girls or what?
Probably not many of the world's population shave, yet at least in wester societies, more and more people are doing it. "Weird"? You'd have to ask the particular woman involved.