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> My brother got intimate pretty quickly with his girlfriend at my age and i didn't know if that was common.
This reminds me of a story about a young boy who asked his mother "where did I come from." Taken aback, the mother launched into a long discussion about the birds and the bees. When she was done, she asked if he had any questions to which he replied: "I just wanted to know if I came from Buffalo or New York City."
"Common" in this situation probably has more to do with the cultural norms in the area where you grow up as well as the morals and values taught to you. What kids do who grew up in the inner city and perhaps influenced by gang mentality will probably be vastly different than what a teen decides is right and proper who grew up in America's heartland.
When a boy is 13, 14, or, 15, his hormones are raging and ruling his thoughts and often his behaviors. It can often take a lot of will power and principles to squelch "animal behavior", yet most of us do maintain control. Keep in mind that boys in your age range are more interested in getting their jollies than in the more adult emotional aspect of romance. Girls, not so much. They have a much different view of sex and romance than the typical male. If you are going to have intercourse with a girl, make it for the right reason, not physical pleasure. You may be interested to learn that a great h/j & b/j can give you more intense pleasure than intercourse which does more for a person's emotions and psyche. So, stick with these for the time being.
Another reason for saying than your age makes a difference right now is in whether you are in the 8th, 9th, or 10th grade. In addition to different levels of maturity is the fact that if you are not in the same grade or at least in the same school, your experiences, attitudes, outlook, will all be different from one another. Sex and fooling around are not enough.
I understand the novelty, being curious about each other's body, what feelings are involved, and just what intercourse is like, yet you have a lifetime to find out. If you limit your excersions with a girl and go no further than Foreplay, then you will appreciate sex more when you are a few years older and better able to grasp all aspects of the activity. Mother Nature plays a cruel trick on us by giving us the ability to procreate at an early age, yet not fully appreciate the act until much later.
I recommend reading the articles in the Index that deal with dating and making out. Acquiring information is empowering.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
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