[dancingdoc2]

> I am 14 and she is 16. I have a chance to see her for a few more days soon, but i don't know if we will be able to see each other after that. I want to get at least a hand-job from her before we break up. How can I try to proceed to the next phase in our relationship? Are we too young to do that kind of stuff? Is it wrong to try to go that far this soon into a relationship?

Are the two of you too young? I don't know, much depends upon your maturity and at your ages, you still have a lot of developing to do. It is not so much that you are young as much as you have not had sufficient time to develop a really meaningful relationship upon which to have a sexual component to it. In short, it is way to early in any relationship to do more than make out. Don't rush. Take it slowly and learn that there is much more to sex than getting your rocks off--much more.

> Should I try to stay with her or break up with her?

You do not necessarily have to break up; however, maintaining anything more than a penpal or keyboard relationship via E-mail is unrealistic at your ages. She is older, more mature, with more life experience, and, has different interests than you at this time along with a life and friends 3,000 miles away that you can not participate in. When you get back to school, work on developing friendships there with the people around you.

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If you were my child, I would not permit you do date until you were at least 17! Why, because up to this point a young teen has not yet developed sufficiently emotionally, responsibly, and physically. Even though you have gone thru puberty, this does not mean you are an adult; it only means you can father a child.

There are stages of development that each person goes thru during their teen years and you are at or soon will be at the one where you hang out with primarily other boys. Sometime later, you will be socializing in a group containing both girls and boys. Later, like at 17 or so, you will still have guy friends, yet a kid's primary interest is with the opposite gender. Do not bypass these important stages of socialization and development.

It is too soon IMHO for kids your age to date and especially date one-on-one. Do things for the next year or so as a group of four or more. When you do date girls, please make them open non-exclusive relationships. By being able to date more than one girl at a time, you can have all the perks without all the drama and trauma that comes form being exclusive with one person. There is an article in the Index that explains this in greater detail.

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