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If I ever meet a girl, should I be honest with her and tell her that I don't have experience dating, and I lack basic social skills? If I ever go on a date and the date goes bad, would it be appropiate to ask her for advice on where the date went wrong, and what would be the best remedy? Or should I simply respect her right to end the date?
Asked and answered. What social skills do you believe you are lacking?
A woman expects confident behavior from a man, even if, she understands he lacks experience. Nearly always, if a date goes bad, you can do your own analyzing.
Expect that if you date lots of women, some dates will last one dinner, others a few more, a few will continue on for several months, and one or two will be keepers for the longterm. Once in a great while a woman might end a date early, yet I dare say something would have to say that something would have to be seriously wrong, or, she simply is in a rush and if she does not like you for whatever reason will cut to the chase and leave. I often joke with people that they should plan the first date around having a meal at a restaurant before anything else. The door swings both ways, if you catch my drift. Either of you can get up and leave at any time. So, do not concern yourself with this. The likelihood of this ever happening is slim. Most people will at least finish their meal and enjoy some degree of polite conversation before deciding to end the date for whatever reason.
Do not over analyze the what ifs, and do not worry about something before there is a need. As previously stated, if you go on a first date expecting nothing more than a good meal and some conversation, you have accomplished much more than if you had stayed home alone. More often than not, the date will go well enough to book a second and a third. If a burgeoning relationship ends, it ends. This is what dating is all about. Do not for a moment believe you did something wrong or that you failed somehow. Why do people date? To learn more about others and to be better at recognizing when Mr./Ms. Right comes into our life. That said, others will come and go thru no fault of your own. It's called incompatability.
I feel that if I go on a date I will need to apologize in advance for the date not advancing beyond the actual duration of the date.
What does this mean. Please clarify. I think I just answered this.
"Apologize in advance?" where is the confident behavior and attitude in this?
Are there girls that desire, fantasize, or otherwise get turned on by meeting a guy who doesn't have experience dating? I ask this last question because I know that all my friends say that they would love to pound a virgin.
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"Pound?" Come on, you can think up a classier way of stating the obvious.
Also, while this may be true, consider that when you do find a woman to date, the chances of her being a virgin will be slim. By her mid to late 20s, most women have a history that includes sex, and sometimes a child or two. If a woman comes into your life are you going to quiz her about her past?
I don't think so. Her past life as with your past life, is personal. She will share of it what she wants you to know. Before you share your life's history, ask yourself "of what benefit is it for her to know this or that". Remember what I said about exploring and learning as you go? A person's history has a way of making itself known over time. Being a virgin or not? Remember what I said about exploring and learning as you go--and about one person being more experienced than the other? Each new relationship can be considered to be "virginal". Each relationship has a Square One and does not have any connection with past relationships.
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