[kevjam]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You have tried all of the usual methods to no effect. That's is no surprise.

Because you HAVE NOT done what you SHOULD have done which is simply, in the absence of any medical issue including stress and over-work - is to PAY ATTENTION TO HER. Specifically, not what worked with other women - you've been married for 9 years now - dammit don't you KNOW what works with HER?

Obviously, it isn't toys, pornography and lingerie. Those are tricks used by women to get their men going - not vice versa with a few exceptions. Pornography, for example, bores me to tears! I'd much rather do than watch. Lingerie just gets in my way and the best toys ever invented were men!

Doc and Int are right on the money but I have another couple of items for you to digest:

1. If it isn't in her body, it is in her head - so what does she think about sex and sexuality? How was she raised? Was she abused? What does she believe? As you believe so shall you do. Understand that your fighting for your marriage and for your wife - put some effort and courage into TALKING with her and EXPLORING what is going on in her head. Reserve judgment, do not give up, and accept what she says is true.

2. Find, read, and do The Program and Body Worship. Spend time on the foreplay and then more time on the foreplay. Fire her up to the extent that SHE jumps on YOU.Within each woman, in the absence of medical & psyche issues, there is an Inner Tigress. Ignite it and afterwards catch her up in your big strong arms, celebrate, and tell her to NEVER hide form you again and you can take whatever she dishes out.

Got it?

see thats just it, ive done all of this and nothing works. ive tried talking to her and she shoots me down every time. i cant understand what shes feeling and what she wants if she wont open up to me. i married a f@#$n brick wall. IM SO FRIGIN FRUSTRATED!!!!!!