[dancingdoc2]

> I did try that today! Well not the getting him hard again because we didn't have any time left but the making out and kissing and taking our time but omg he is so stubborn! He wants to rush through everything. I did try to stop him today but he won.

Is your fella interested in your enjoyment or in getting his jollies?

Does he understand that women require a lot of making out before they are ready for an orgasm?

I recommend that you either sit him down and read the articles on womens orgasms and also the fine art of how to make out among other articles. Play to his pride.

Now, if he resists learning more about how to possibly become a world class lover, then you read the articles and ask him "did you know this" and keep asking as each time you tell him what each "this" is. I do not know of any guy who won't accept more how-to information if he can see how it will benefit his girl and ultimately him, and thus the two of them. By employing the "did you know this" approach you do run the risk of him saying he does not need to know any more in which case you might as well call it quits and look for someone more open minded. You can not change him. It's like leading the proverbial horse to water--you can't make him drink, do not for a minute think you can change someone who does not recognize that some changes need to be made and why.

> The idea of me having multiple orgasms at this point is way "out there." I know it can happen but it will take some experimenting on my part. That sounds great though!

What it takes is "communication". You know what makes you feel good in the moment and what it requires to bring about the next climax. You must convey this to him and give him feedback on how you are responding and for what you need now/next. Guide his movements.

> Now for making out...its kind of odd. He's never been to big of a fan of making out and what not. I've been reminding him about slowing down though. Not pestering! (evilevil!) just little hints like ,"Slow, or not yet." If you have anymore suggestions for ways to slow things down tell me please

Request that he do his reading assignments period. His first assignment is to learn why women require more time and effort than he does, why you cannot climax without adequate preparation unlike him; why devoting half an hour minimum to Necking and Petting are critically important; why working together for the common good is important.

Does he understand that making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other?