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> Oh and about the starting back up, well I've tried that but once he's soft we both have it set in our minds its over out of routine. However it can be changed.

If and when his erection subsides, give it a few minutes, continue hugging, kissing, and caressing, and then work on getting it to return. Erections come and erections go, he should know this.

A lovemaking session can be extended and extended some more just by continuing to make out. The same thing is true after he has an orgasm. Lovemaking is not over. If you want to extend the session, continue to make out. After his refractory period has elapsed (anywhere from about ten minutes to thirty depending upon age and sex drive) he can enjoy another orgasm. The trick as you will learn by continuing to read the articles listed in the Index is in staggering your multiple orgasms (should you desire more) in between any two of his.

Etiquette suggests letting you enjoy the first and last climax. In between he can have his and the two of you can extend this out enjoying additional orgasms as it suits the two of you for as long as it suits the two of you. His maximum number is probably three or maybe four, again, depending upon age, drive, and how many orgasms he has had over the past twenty four hours. You on the other hand can probably enjoy many more and have multiples in between his. What fun!

> Omg...I never really knew that the thrusting was really only supposed to last about 5 to 10 minutes! Thats such a shocker!

Actual thrusting (fast and strong stroking) will probably last only a short time. Before he begins thrusting for the finale or doing so in between periods of stroking, it is from all that rubbing that causes the vaginal entrance to become tender and sore--thus the arbitrary ~ten minute limit. Keep in mind that if the two of you want to prolong intercourse, then why not do so incrimentally, enjoying several short sessions instead of one very long session. This is also a way to keep an erection from sagging just due to wearing a guy out. (Two sayings come to mind; first, "give it a break;" second, "give it a rest".) Fill up the time by going back and continuing to make out. There are articles on all this, also.

S E X is not just about Foreplay or Intercourse. Sex should begin by making out and continuing to make out until the two of you cannot stand it any longer and have to have either Foreplay or Intercourse to end it. Once you have enjoyed your orgasms, except for time and opportunity, you can continue if you want to extend the enjoyment. Learn how to make out. There are articles explaining what seems to have become lost in recent years. Read up and practice the A, B, C's of Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and eventually, Foreplay, all before getting to a climax by whatever means. Guys and gals are not spending nearly enough time on these important and necessary aspects of sex--nor understanding the need to.

Once a couple underdstands all this and can put it successfully into practice, then we can talk about the real deal--how to make love!