I have been having problem with my boyfriend of 11 months...Since the very first time we had sex we have had a very annoying and redundant situation; We usually can only have sex for a very short period of time. By short period of time I mean under an hour...including foreplay. We actually engage in sex for 5 to 20 minutes.
The foreplay is very short usually. My boyfriend rushes it, sometimes to the max with barely touching but on normal days we might touch each other for 10 to 15 minutes. I know that the rushing situation is my fault as well because when he rushes I should stop him but I don't, my yearning gets the best of me but I'm working on that.
I think the problem might be because of the short foreplay time but I'm not really sure.
Now here comes the real problem...We start having sex...it begins to feel pretty good....getting better...better...
fun...STOP. Something happens. Maybe it gets to hot so he's tired and gets soft, or maybe his knee is hitting his charger or a phone or some cord so we pause, maybe he's to hungry, maybe he needs to pee, or maybe he starts thinking about something, and sometimes he just stops. The bottom line is he gets soft...really fast and really easily and after he gets soft I cannot figure out how to get him hard again.
At first we thought it was the condoms because he is large. The biggest size of trojan is extremely tight on him to the point where it hurts him. So we were very careful and stopped using them. The problem still occured.
He tells me it feels good, and I've asked him a million questions and all of them turn up inconclusive. We have been dealing with this for about 6 months and I can't take this anymore. I AM TIRED OF IT! I have never cum with him once...and he barely cums either.
On top of all of that I cannot for the life of me get him to talk to me about it. I am so frustrated with him and this problem. I really need someone to talk to about this and someone to help or give me advice.
Thank you for your time.
-Sesshylove