[dancingdoc2]

I am sorry to learn of your predicament. Yours is a classic case of why I urge people to date lots of different people for a few years, none exclusively. Dating should not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us; rather, dating should be all about learning about the personalities, characters, likes, dislikes, quirks, goals. morals, etc., in order to help us learn when Mr./Ms. right comes into our lives.

You are right not to want to get married for the foreseeable future. If you did, more than likely her fantasy would not work out and then you'd either be divorced or living a relationship that is troublesome to the both of you as well as your child.

You are to be commended for stepping up and supporting your child.

My recommendation is to find a therapist who does couples therapy and premarital counseling and make an appointment.