[Jones09]

Hey, I'm in a dilemma. Well basically the mother of my child (gf) and I are having problems. Mostly between us, nothing really relating to the child. First let me tell you about us.

We begin our relationship our senior year of high school. Basically high school love, we always felt we were going to be together forever. That's before we thought realistically about our future. Anyways a year and a half passed and we had a child. Now the child is almost two years old. I'm 21 and she's 22. She's ready to get married and move in together, nothing wrong about that. That's fine. HOWEVER, I personally am not ready and neither do I think she is.

We can't get along, every 2weeks we have an argument and I personally think the argument is based on her being mad at me for not wanting to get married. However she will NOT let this go and I will not change my mind anytime soon.

This is why I do not think she is ready, she's 22. She does not want to attend school nor does she like to keep a job. The first year of the child, I was in and out of a job, due to lay offs and etc. Now I have a steady job and I just been put on permanent, I pay for the child clothing, food, and insurance. However he lives with her. (She lives with her parents.)

I really love her, I care for her a lot, but she's just not ready to get married, she haven't matured much since high school. I can't depend on her to help me with my son, not at the moment. I believe a child should grow up with both his parents but with her I feel it is impossible.

I'm trying so much to get this to work. I feel like we never were really into each other besides the sex unfortunately. I do not want to go put my son through this, I don't want to have to go through court systems just to get along.

It's at the point to where she's blaming me, and me only for her short comings. She's blaming me for the lack of her friends, her lack of a college education, her weight. I really don't know what to do.