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Old 07-25-2009, 02:45 PM
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Sadly, you won't get her to the doctor (and neither will her parents) until she (and they) sees the light of the problem she has and recognizes that she needs help. You love her, so inevitably you'll try desperately to help her see it. But you can't MAKE her see it. And if she won't (it's not a can't, it's a won't--not an ability, a choice), you owe it to yourself to get her out of your life--it becomes self-preservation at that point.

Trust me, I know whereof I speak, I've dated addicts in the past. You give and you give and you give because somewhere inside you love them and you want to help them. Until you wake up one day and you have no more to give and you're just weary from the weight of it all. You hear people tell you how 'good for them' you are, and hearing it feels good, but the bottom line is, THEY are BAD for YOU, and that MUST become the overriding factor, and you MUST be the strong one and LEAVE. For your own sake.

I'm not saying don't try. Partly because I know you will no matter what anyone tells you. So try. But recognize when it's time to stop trying and save yourself.
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