[anonymous.]

my boyfriend and i have been having sex for a few months now. everything between us is fantastic and we're both happy and comfortable with each other and where we are in our relationship. however, i've been feeling that i should probably tell my mom what's going on. i can't even begin to describe how much i really don't want to. my mother is one of those people who will (and does) gossip about anyone and anything. i know from my sister's past experience, that once my mother finds out i am no longer a virgin, she will tell anyone who will isten. which pretty much means family, neighbors, friends, etc. i'm really uncomfortable with the idea of all these people knowing that i'm having sex. and i want to make it clear, that i am not uncomfortable with sex, i am just a very private person and feel that what goes on between my boyfriend and i is really no one else's business.

i was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to tell my mom what's going on and to basically tell her to shut up about it without hurting her feelings. (usually whenever the subject of her gossip habit is brought up she gets really defensive and ends up fighting with whomever she's talking to.)

thanks.