Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten
Okay, here's the scoop - from a multi-orgasmic woman btw -
EVERY woman is capable of multiple orgasms IF SHE WANTS TO BE because it takes some doing.
1. She must be relaxed and completely aroused as well as in tune with her sexuality.
2. She must have a competent sex partner or at least one with some major sexual skills.
Rarely will you find either of these among teenagers or 20-something's.
For #1. Finding, reading, and then doing the sticky post entitled The Program will help accomplish this but she has to trust you and desire you. Trusting and desiring you is something no one can help you with. No, she doesn't have to love you or like you - even knowing your name is irrelevant actually. But she does have to trust that you will not harm her.
Sensitivity lasts for as long as it takes - but only once. Once you're through it, you're good for life. It may require several tries but following The Program is your best bet.
#2 Requires Learning one skill whose worth is beyond all others - learning to 'listen' to a woman's body. Understanding her physical responses and what they mean and how to elict, act upon, and respond to her body - a skill that is priceless! Doing BODY WORSHIP to her will teach you all your need to know. There's a sticky post about this too.
Knowing what to do with what you've got comes next. The Program and Body Worship will give you the basics of what to do where when and with what - all you have to do is to practice, practice, practice.
'Changing it up' during the session is irrelevant because once she's in 'the groove' she's going to stay there, and stay there, and stay there, for as long as he, and maybe the next man, can hold out. The orgasms just keep rolling through, coming and going and coming and going - aaah! - it is Nirvana, I can tell you! Riding him for 45 to 60 minutes? No problem! Grit your teeth guys and hang in there!
NOTE: it is NOT just the clitoris!!! Every woman has 4 hotspots. You should know how to stimulate ALL of them! Quit trying to cheat, dammit! You move from the clitoris to the G-Spot then to the posterior fornix and then back to the clitoris and then maybe moving to the anterior fornix back to the posterior fornix back to the G- Spot - you never go for the same area twice - you move gracefully from one hotspot to the other and around you go. You don't even have to change position from the usual male superior, "missionary", position to do it.
If she prefers female superior, 'cowgirl', fine - she can stimulate what she wants when she wants - all you have to do is lie there and help by doing as you're told. From behind, doggy, isn't as good as it moves the clitoris out of play without a reach around or self play and that can be distracting. I generally save that position for last when I want him to orgasm and then I machine him to make sure he does orgasm since by the time I'm through with him, he's very, very tired.
Girls will NOT tell you anything EVER, guy. They will lie "It was great!" right to your face - because they're being "nice", because they want to "stay friends", because they do not want any "drama", because they want you to get "off her back", and because they haven't got a clue about how superb sex can really be so they don't actually know if it was good, bad, or indifferent "I could have had a V8" sex. One clue is when they ask you, or tell you, to stop doing something. When she declines something sexual, it means "you need to get better at doing that."
Women, on the other hand, DO know what great sex is - and they expect you to be competent. Women will tell you precisely what to do when how and with what. Those women who enjoy messing about with younger males call it "coaching". If they're nice women, they do it gently so as to not bruise his ego. If they're dominatrices, they just tell him and let him deal with any ego-bruising on his own time.
Some females do not want to orgasm at all. These women, who I find very odd, do this for several reasons:
-they do not enjoy sex
-they do not like him so they refuse to 'reward' his efforts
-they do not want to lose control and resent their body/repress their sexuality
-there is a medical issue somewhere that they do not want to face
-they do not want their bf's to think they're whores so they repress their sexuality
-they think that they'd be giving it away if there's no marriage in the immediate future
take your pick of the above.
Instead of being satisifed by her desiring only one orgasm, you should be taking it as an insult. Think of it as her not just declining to be manually stimulated, 'fingered', but as her declining to do ANYHING more with you at all.
Got it?
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