Well, Chick, I can pretty much guarantee that if the woman discovered him watching the clock that she'd be wondering if not asking what his hurry is or what is more important than "this". That might just be enough to send him packing to find out.
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Originally Posted by Pimpson2000
I have made a similar post to this in the past. There is a lot on the web that breaks down tips for foreplay (breast play, kissing on the neck etc.). The one thing that is typically missing from these is the recommended time (in minutes etc.) to spend on each female body part.
I understand your need for guidance in this matter; however, I also agree that you are over thinking this. Making love is what we do with and for each other; not what we do to each other. You are making it appear to be much too mechanical a process.
I mean, I don't want to jump around like a distracted kid from one body part to the other. At the same time, I do not want things to turn remarkably monotous either. Hence, my questions are as follows:
Please read the articles listed in the Index that discuss how to fool around and make out {Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) along with their progressive steps. This should answer half of your question.
a. How much time is recommended for breast play?
2 minutes 34 seconds for the one less responsive [1]
1 minute 19 seconds for the one more responsive for the first go-around. [2]
b. While kissing on the neck, what are the indicators that females typically give off when they like it?
She turns her head and extends her neck.
She purrs
She tells you
c. How much time is recommended for any kind of neck action?
d. Any thoughts on kissing on the stomach?
If it works for her, as JFK said: "Proceed with all possible 'vigah'".
Communication is key to every relationship. This can be both verbal and non-verbal. Try it and see how she responds or reacts, then ask for feedback and make any adjustments as needed.
Another article to read is the one on "Implied Consent". You'll find it in Chapter Three.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST
Next read Chapter One of that article and continue reading the remaining chapters.
As I had mentioned earlier, I have made a post somewhat similar to this in the past and the responses were helpful and quite specific. I also remember that there were some responses asking me to ask my girl what she prefers.
You can do this as noted, above. An alternative is to employ "Implied Consent".
Sadly, it has been over six years since I've been even remotely close to a relationship. All my experiences in the past year (there have been a few) have been "one-off" interactions with people that I was never really meant
to see again.
If you have read anything I've said recently and in the past about dating (Yes! there are articles on this subject listed in the Index, also.) then you are aware that the process is ongoing. Dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. The purpose of dating is to learn what humanity has to offer us in a potential mate. For this to happen we must date several people, sometimes two at a time in order to be better able to determine when Ms./Mr. Right enters our life.
Dates can last through one dinner, a couple, many; and, a couple will be keepers. Dating should also be open and non-exclusive. There is less angst, drama and trauma when a couple is free to date others, not that she/he actually will.
Now I sincerely hope this does not become a way of life for me but I simply do not have the luxury to practice on the same woman over and over again.
What do you mean? If you do not have the time to devote on a woman ongoing, how then do you expect to have a relationship? If by this statement you mean that you do not like her well enough to ask her out a second time, then you are actually going about dating correctly. Just keep looking for a better catch and you do this by continuing to ask women out.
All I know is that with each experience, I want to get a little smarter about this since it has been YEARS since I have had this many experiences one after another - and when I least expect them.
Why not brave the unknown and date one or two a second and third time so you can learn more? Remember, some dates do last a bit longer than one dinner. If you continually pick the wrong women, then clearly you are doing something wrong. Change tactics.
Any female perspective is more than welcome. Thank you in advance.
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Having been there, done that, and made many similar recommendations to those, above, I believe I have a formula that works. Besides, open dating and dating lots of different people is the way it was done up until about the last fifteen years or so. Time to return to what worked in the past.
P.S.
[1] [2] My answers were a reflection of my wry, dry, sense of humor.
There are no set times, nor should there be as noted. Take your cues for how long from her body language and her responses and for what she does in return. Read the articles on kissing and also making out and begin implementing the guidelines. Times vary depending upon conditions, mood, attitude, comfort, time of the month, and other unforeseen factors.
Explore and learn together in partnership.
-doc