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Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten
Actually, I disagree with Doc on one point - there ARE men who are extremely good at helping a woman achieve orgasm. They listen to a woman's body and follow her responses; they study anatomy and they practice, practice, practice. But I will admit, they aren't all that thick upon the ground.
OH YES, I agree that they exist. Finding them tho is like singling out a tree from among the forest. In this age range, however, these fellas may be few and far between and the search is likely to add more frustration to what already exists.
My advice - assuming the absence of psychological and/or medical issues- is to RELAX. Relax every fiber of your body and focus your mind upon only one thing - THIS WILL FEEL GREAT! or THIS MAN WILL PLEASE YOU. - then let the sensations roll on through you savoring each one as it comes and goes utterly relaxed but yet aroused. To help this - go do The Program.
And, following the suggestions in the how-to article on learning how to masturbate.
Those who tense up. Those who worry. They are the ones who will not orgasm.
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It is important to practice when you are "cool, calm, and collected", can indeed relax, and are not going to be distracted by activities inside or outside the home.
> On a small side note, is cumming and having a orgasm the same thing? or is it the same men and different for women? No one has been able to answer that question.
Yes, "cumming" is the slang term for having an "orgasm" or "climax".
Orgasms are orgasms, although, from all the research and study, and, discussions over the years, male and female orgasms manifest themselves differently. In addition, some women can enjoy different types such as from the G-spot, or from the stimulation of other areas--not just the clitoris. These are bonuses guys can only imagine and dream about.
Female orgasms seem to be much more internalized than they are for men and this often begs the question: "did you cum, yet?" In addition, the physical experience tends to be much more diffused involving the entire body. Sensations for the male orgasms are usually localized in the penis. Of course, there is also the male ejaculation component. The two are separate entities yet 999 times out of 1000 or so, an orgasm immediately follows the start of an ejaculation. It is possible to have an ejaculation without much of an orgasmic experience and vice versa. Separately, each is less intense.
Female orgasms can take many forms and can sometimes be triggered from different spots within the vagina. It's not always just about the clitoris. Orgasms can be mild, earth (bed?) shaking, rolling, pulsating, etc. The clitoris and penis share a common origin and are structurally similar; although, the clitoris does not have a urethra, is physically much tinier, and, its shaft is buried between the folds of the upper vulva.
There are as many nerve endings in the Glans of the penis as there are in the Tip of the clitoris--they are just much closer together in the clitoris and this fact makes the clitoris much more sensitive to touch and stimulation! For males of the species who have a foreskin, you can get a small idea of just how sensitive the clitoris is by exposing your Glans and rubbing it. For those of us who were circumcised as infants, we can only guess.
As fantastic as most orgasms are for most people, it is possible to have two or more in succession. After each climax comes a brief "refractory" or recovery period. This is a very short time in women, often lasting moments to minutes. Women can often enjoy many more orgasms in a row than guys can. For guys, depending upon age, sex drive, and "wiring", the down time is typically ten minutes to thirty minutes for those of us some distance removed from puberty. Guys are usually limited to three maybe four orgasms a day whether they come one after the other and/or are spread out over a twenty four hour period.
There is much to learn about the subject as it pertains to both genders. The Index contains links to several articles.