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> To be honest i have never had an orgasm in fact, i have never even cummed with out a vibrator. I have been talking to a lot of my friends and this is making me very sad....whats wrong with me? girls cum all the time to a guy and only a guy why do i need a vibe?
What are your girlfriends telling you?
Please clarify; your statement above is confusing. You state you've had an orgasm and then in the next breath that you only have them with a vibrator. (I am going on the presumption that you only have them with one and never during intercourse.)
You require a vibrator because this is probably how you started out masturbating, or, if not, what you transitioned to because fingers weren't working. Maupassant is partially correct, recommending that you shy away from vibrators and their intense sensations. It are these intense sensations that have dulled your senses so that fingers do not have the affect desired.
There is an article on all this listed in the Index. Please read the
entire thread.
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
Once you have given up the vibrator except for special occasions and retrained your brain to be responsive to the weaker sensations of your fingers, you can then go on and show a boyfriend what is required.
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
> If you can help me in any way, give any advice please lend it and i will listen. Im on the verge of breaking down! a 15 year old girl knows more about her body than i do.
A fifteen your old girl probably did not have access to a vibrator. However, there are other variables to this: first, is that girls learn to masturbate as a result of conscious effort, unlike with guys; second, girls often learn long after puberty, if at all; third, some expect that guys will just give orgasms to them. The latter is completely incorrect. Each person, male and female is responsible for his/her own orgasms. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them. Lastly, learning to masturbate is more difficult for women to master and not every woman can climax. (There are articles on this topic, also.)
> And also this might seem dumb, but should i maybe go and try to find a man that is very experienced to help me with this problem i have?
ABSOLUTELY--
not! and for two reasons. First, most guys are not trained to teach a woman about things that are uniquely in her domain; second, most guys know a lot about male masturbation and precious little about a woman's or her physiology. As noted in the article, you must go on another adventure of self discovery and learn how to bring about your climaxes from your fingers.
> Oh and this all fits together because i feel bad for my next boyfriend, because he wont be able to please me with out a toy and i really want to break that habit to have a better relationship.
WRONG. Sex is not all about orgasms. If you read the other articles in the Index on female orgasms you will learn that not every woman can achieve them. That said, how is she satisfied? Answer? Emotionally. You already know you can climax, all you have to do is to learn a different technique that is less intense.
You can break that habit in a few weeks of self schooling. Now, go have fun by yourself and do not become frustrated. This is a learning process that does require some time and effort on your part. Begin by doing your "homework" reading the articles, above, and any others that interest you.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?