Look up s/he is more experienced in the stickies in new to sex. Then look up body worship and the program in the section married long term relationship. Finally be honest with her. She will know immediately that you are a bad lay or are a virgin. If she knows before hand she will be more understanding to your less than steller performance. She may want to have sex with a virgin and enjoy introducing you to sex, so don't take that away from her.

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> I'm about to have sex with a very experience girl but I'm quite worried that I will disappoint her. I probably won't be lasting long and I don't really know to treat and please the woman in real.

Please do not worry about facts not in evidence. I suggest reading this article that discusses the matter of "experience".

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Next: If you are new & have no experience (Pt. 2 of HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED!:
If you are a guy who happens to be shy or uncertain about making the first move, know that this is OK. My suggestion is:

> Do you think it would disappoint her much that I'm awful at bed? ) She thinks I'm a "normal" experienced man. Any tips or tricks for me?

Relationships are partnerships. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Explore and learn together. The two articles, above, will answer your concern.

In addition to the above, please read those articles that discuss first time sex under the heading:
SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE

Doesn't make sense to NOT tell her your status...she'll know within about 5 minutes. So, TELL HER and then follow her lead, which btw is usually the best thing a man can do - experienced or not - that way you'll learn more.

Calm down. Be courageous. Do NOT treat her like she's made of cut glass.

What Big said -- let her have the enjoyment of introducing you to sex. Tell her in advance and let her take the lead (of course your reading may let you offer a few suggestions.) Most of all relax and enjoy -- if it doesn't work perfectly the first time it is just a sign you need to do it again .. and again(wink)

And ALWAYS wear a fresh CONDOM.

Get several packets in different sizes and try them out at home so you know what fits you and masturbate before you go to meet her.

Proper prior planning prevents piss-poor performance.

I was 26 years old when I lost my virginity to my girlfriend. I told her that I was a virgin and the reasoning behind my decision. She respected my decision and waited until I was ready. I recommend you telling yours. If she laughs or anything then she shouldn't be the one you want to lose it to. She was definitely more experienced than me and still is. I am not sure if it was performace anxiety but I did not achieve an orgasm my first time making love to my girlfriend. Almost two years later we still make amazing love and it is only getting better with experimenting.

let me tell you my virginity was lost when i was 9 because i was raped but ppl say im still a virgin..so let me tell you my first guy i dated we had sex and yes i thought i was doing it for all the right reasons. there is ppl that like to find ppl who r virgins because they enjoy taking it from them for their own advantage. My question is to you, is she doing it because she loves you or cares or because you want to feel good. Is she going to use you and then drop you like a sack of potatoes. that happened to me but there are ppl who actually do it because they do love each other. dont try to force yourself to be experienced like others and to catch up to her level. Do it on your own time or for the good reasons...

EGAD what possible advantage could 'taking someone's virginity' confer upon a person??

You see the difference here? SG was raped. This has colored her attitude toward sex and men ever since. She seeks security, validation, and all th e good reasons.

I threw my virginity away with glee as early as I could talk some guy into it. While there may have been a few "what was I thinking?" moments between now and then, I say that with a huge grin. I love sex, I adore men (in general, don't get cocky) and all I seek is mutual FUN! Reasons? Fun is reason enough.

Life is far too short. Stop wasting it.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;273696]EGAD what possible advantage could 'taking someone's virginity' confer upon a person??

You see the difference here? SG was raped. This has colored her attitude toward sex and men ever since. She seeks security, validation, and all th e good reasons.

I threw my virginity away with glee as early as I could talk some guy into it. While there may have been a few "what was I thinking?" moments between now and then, I say that with a huge grin. I love sex, I adore men (in general, don't get cocky) and all I seek is mutual FUN! Reasons? Fun is reason enough.

Life is far too short. Stop wasting it.[/QUOTE]

In addition i agree with you i love sex as well, but i just want people to make their decision where there heart is in the right place. Some say i was still a virgin after wat happened to me so for the first guy i did have a relationship with yeah i went into it because it was great...it was fun hell i did it in a car first guy i dated and he was a body trainer..lol Men are great but there are evils in the world. :o

Yes, there are and you deal with it as you can but you don't make the avoidance your total ethos. Living happily and well requires your participation.

honest is the best policy =] and i think she would respect and love you for that =] gl! and enjoyyy! lol!

I was a 21 year old virgin when I first slept with my more experienced future wife. I had told her I was was a virgin and she thought that was cute--she really enjoyed being "the one" to teach me--and boy, did she ever! After a few short months, we were learning new things together. Tell her! ...and ENJOY!
Michael

thank you for good post!))

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