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Old 07-04-2009, 12:15 PM
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Thanks for responses

doc i have enlisted answers to questions posed below


Questions:

* How old are the two of you? I am 25 she is 23

* How many people have you dated before her? I have been in a proper relationship with 3 previously
* How many people has she dated before you? 1

* How is the communication between you? Are you able to freely talk about any subject? When it comes to problem solving, are you able to discuss and also negotiate solutions?

I wouldnt say freely, i mean i dont have a problem speaking to her about things but i just dont seem to feel the need to tell her specific things, i am always someone who likes to bottle things up and deal with them on my own accord she speaks freely to me however when she kicks off she goes on about me not listening to her and knowing about problems in her life when reality is how can i when she dont tell me? When it comes to problems and finding a common ground i feel as though it is me who puts the offer on the table so to speak and me who negotiates she never seems to propose anything

A lot of times couples argue over topics not issues, meaning they pick on some matter that doesn't have anything to do with what is really wrong. I wonder what it is that causes her to engage in monthly confrontations. Its like brandeye said its just before her period and it really is not nice. she started taking some pills after researching it but then stopped i think
If you go to the site's Home page, you will find many animated illustrated sexual positions. Why not have a look at some and discuss the possibility of trying one or more? Explore and learn together then evaluate the results. If she is so worried about venturing forth and trying new things then I wonder what is the real cause for her apprehensions.

We have had a look before and she has been open to trying she just seems to be apprehensive regarding possible pain that may occur from trying different positions.

> Recently i dont even feel like seeing or talking to her which i know seems harsh but i dont know what to do. I really want things to work between us but i feel as though even though we are a team, alot of these things need to be tackled by her.

If she is unwilling to try things, explore, learn, then perhaps you should begin dating other people. I have stated time and again that dating does not begin and end with the first warm body expressing an interest in us. Dating is all about going out with many different people, sometimes dating a couple of people at the same time and not having an exclusive relationship with anyone until you are ready to settle down. When you are you will be in a much better position to determine when Mr./Ms. Right comes into view.

If she cannot make a move to seek help with her problems, then perhaps it is time for you to continue the dating process. It is no good for one person to be willing to change, the partner recognizing that change is needed, yet unwilling to undertake the challenge.


Thanks for responses

doc i have enlisted answers to questions posed above
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