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Originally Posted by jki
Thanks for the replies guys.
Doc, from what I've read, the majority of women get too sensitive after orgasm, so my girlfriend (her first time with oral too) will direct me.
This is a good strategy. If you've been reading the forums for ages then you probably have read that relationships in including the sexual aspect is a partnership. It's not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with.... This means communicating how we are responding to each others caresses and for what we need now/next.
I'll just stick around her labia and ease off the clit fully, and she will leave me to it, or pull me up, of if she wants, I guess push me back onto her clit.
Each person, male and female while so much the same are all unique and different. Generally it is the male of the species who becomes hypersensitive immediately after climaxing; the fairer gender becomes too sensitive to touch immediately before climaxing.
You may not have experienced the hypersensitivity yet in which your penis becomes too sore to touch for several minutes. The reason is because if all we've done is masturbated, we do not become nearly as aroused as when we are in the company of our lover. The sensation is one of pain, although, it isn't actually pain.
Depending upon a guy's age and how he is wired, our recovery period between orgasms can be from about ten minutes to thirty. The hypersensitivity will only last several minutes so you can be ready to go, again, often before your refractory period has ended.
Girls can and often do have more orgasms and in quicker succession if it is their wish. Their clitoris becomes too sensitive just before reaching the point of no return and this is often a problem if not handled properly. The solution is to continue to stimulate the clitoris be it the tip or the shaft indirectly. This means folding the labia over it and massaging it through them; it also means tugging on and massaging one or both labia individually thus involving the nerves of the clitoris; it can also mean just massaging the overall area of the vulva--whatever works for her and for whatever works this time.
But I expect that I will be returning up for a kiss. Do you know how long the period of extreme sensitivity lasts? If she orgasms, and we then kiss, is there a rough amount of time before she'll be ready for me to go again? Or does this vary with every woman?
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I expect so, too; however, if you have read any of the articles listed in the Index dealing with making out you know that it is best to keep a person's entire body involved and this means continually kissing and caressing every square inch over and over. You may enjoy a particular activity such as giving and/or receiving oral stimulation; although, it is better to dally here and there a little and unwise to prolong any of these activities too much.
Keep her wanting more. The same goes for you with her kisses and caresses. Drive each other wild with anticipation as you build and then pause each others progress toward an orgasm. This give and take can be fun, yet not something you want to do too much of at one time or too often when making love because as with anything good, you can also exasperate a person and this is counter productive. There is a fine line between ecstasy and frustration.
You mentioned spending a lot of time reading the forums, have you read the articles listed in the Index? Yes or no, I recommend reading them in order to gain much more insight into the entire process.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?