> i dont even care ne more shes not worth it to me ne more she was my worst mistake im just not gunna worry bout sex till that time comes but how will i know its what my gf or some one wants
What changed? How did you come to this conclusion?
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Originally Posted by happie_blazed
but like shes the same age so and if she willing and takes off her clothes would that still b concidered Rape
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KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION
One of the lessons you must learn is that of boundaries and respecting them; who sets them, and, how to test if they have been extended. Read the section near the top of the article beginning with "NO!" along with the information in the associated link.
plus i go and c her like every weekend and her dad does not live wit her and its a stepdad
Men are inherently hunters. A father (including many step-) will go to the ends of the earth to right a wrong perpetrated against a loved one. Give yourself twenty+ years and you'll understand.
and her mom knows me really well and her mom bought her rubbers and so did my mom when we hooked up so i mean theay know we will have sex
her mom always wanted us to get together so i mean what should i do bout this one and her dads going and geting her on birth control cuz i asked her to ask him if he would get her om it bucuz shes says shes ready to have intercorse what should i do then cuz im confused now |
That you can does not automatically mean you should. (That a safety net has been installed under a tight-rope does not mean you should take a walk on one.) You stand a much greater chance of maintaining your standing with her parents and stepfather if you step up and look out for her well being and not simply look for an easy way to relieve an "itch" betwen your loins. It is far far better IMHO to masturbate more, fantasize, and limit your adventures to hand jobs for the foreseeable future. The trouble about being a teen is that you do not yet know what you do not know. This is why we are being stern with you--we've been there done that and are passing along the wisdom of our experiences.
Intercourse is a BIG DEAL, more so than you are aware of. I understand that the two of you are curious, and/or, that she may want to get the status of her virginity changed, that you may be curious about seeing the female form in its entirity. I belong to the school of thought that recommends waiting until your mental and emotional maturities have developed further. Just because you have passed thru puberty and can produce children does not mean kids should be venturing into adult activities or even having to raise kids when totally ill prepared. Making the transition from childhood into adulthood does not stop at puberty--it is a decade long process that does not end until the early-mid twenties.
I urge you to think with the head on top of your shoulders, not the head at the end of your penis. Understand that hormones are driving your urges more so than logic.
Lastly, consider that it is darn hard for a boy to stop making out once things get underway. Adults understand how difficult it is to jog our conscious brain out of its intoxicating stupor while about to have intercourse. This is why you have been given a supply of condoms--a safety net. It is better me thinks to agree ahead of time to limit your adventures first to Necking, then later, Petting, then some months down the road, Heavy Petting, before ever getting to the Foreplay activities of a h/j and/or b/j. Please read the articles on dating and those on making out. Let her remain chaste until she is mature enough to appreciate the ramifications of loosing her virginity and transitioning to a woman.
If you are interested in mainly getting your rocks off instead of masturbating, then make a pseudo-vagina using a Ziplock plastic bag, cutting a slot along the bottom of one side, lubricating the inside, wrapping it around your penis and covering it with a folded hand towel, then pumping away supported between a pillow or two while assuming the Missionary position. (How's that for a run on sentence?) This appliance is as close to the real feel as you can get.