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Super Penis Workout
First I guess just as a woman has to know her body, you have to do the same. Masturbation is the key. I masturbate sometimes at least 3 times a day. I have since before I had pubic hair. You can learn a lot about yourself through just masturbation. Rhythm, sensations, fantasies, hard, fast, slow etc... Now that have learned how you react:
Try this exercise. Without porn or fantasizing, just laying there while your penis is limp. Don't even touch yourself. Keep your mind free and clear. Contract the muscles around your anus, (sphincter) as weird as this sounds, almost like trying to hold back passing gas. Try to get deep contractions. Not to the point it causes pain but deep contractions from your groin area. Think of nothing but the contractions. Contract those muscles. Keep doing it, contract release, contract release, then try contracting and holding for 5 seconds and repeat. You should feel and see your penis move a little even while limp. As it gets more erect you will see it throb with each contraction. You should also feel your prostate being squeezed when doing the contractions. Keep doing this. This helps get the blood flowing to your penis. Contract and release. You will soon get an erection with out any stimulation. I don't even pretend to know how this works. I just know it is how I do it. It is also how I maintain my erection for long periods of time. You will get sore after a long period of time. I still get sore after keeping an erection for more than 3 or 4 hours. Sometimes, which is not often, I can get an erection when I am not even in the mood. Sometimes my wife will want a quickie. I just lay back and let her. It is amazing feeling to let her give me a blowjob while limp and get an erection in her mouth.
Now masturbate, once you have had an orgasm, don't stop thinking about your erection. Contract the muscles around your sphincter (anus). Sometime contracting and holding it for 5 seconds. This helps maintain the penis erect. While wiping yourself off maintain the contractions. You will go limp just a bit. Focus on a fantasy or what ever to keep your mind on maintaining the erection. Start masturbating again while still contracting those muscles. You will find when you are in a real excited state these contractions happen naturally. They key is your awareness of them and keeping them in the back of your mind. When you find yourself actually having sex with someone keeping your mind and focus on these contractions is key to preventing ejaculation when you are not ready.
While using these contractions can help maintain an erection. I have found they also help me control my orgasm. It may be hard to do at first while in the moment but while you are having sex and feel a orgasm coming on. Slow your rhythm and pace a bit, notice the contractions are now involuntary. They are contracting without you even trying or focusing on them. Start relaxing that region. With all your might try to stop the contractions by mentally focusing on slowing them.
Usually they are more dominate right before love making starts. I assume this is where most guys prejaculate. They loose control. You have to learn control.
If you are a prejaculator, try to stick with foreplay for a while. If she is trying to give you oral and you don't think you can take it at the moment. Just caress her face and say don't worry about me just yet. This is your time. You may feel after a while your excitement may start to fade a bit. Don't let anxiety build on your part. Take your time. This is one race where finishing first doesn't get you the gold medal. Concentrate on her, give her a sensual message working your way to a sexual one. Explore her body, this mental activity helps pace yourself even before intercourse can begin. Enjoy the moment but learn to pace yourself.
Learn how to slow down and concentrate on something else right before you feel an orgasm coming on. Obvious right. Also you have to have the desire to only to please her and only her. Keep that in the back of your mind.
Now she is worked up and she can't take it anymore. Once you have relaxed some go for penetration. Slowly at first. Pull out if you feel it coming on. Make it seem you are teasing her with your cock. Taking it out, then slowly putting it back in. Do this for as long as she can handle it also to help ease your mind while trying to take the focus off of the intensity you are feeling. This takes a lot of control and even patience on your part to learn and master.
Once you feel the orgasm subside after you do this a few times (at least for me when I was younger) you should be able to go for quite a while. Always remember to change your pace sometimes even stop the penetrating motion and just lay there with your cock inside her.
Ladies first is my motto. Not all women can achieve orgasm. So basically just enjoy the moment. Some women don't really care for marathon sex. My wife maybe 1 in 5 times wants a marathon. If it is your first time with this person feel free to blow their mind. Remember every woman is different so make sure to ask questions. Some women like confidence but still I think it shows more that you respect her well being to ask questions about what she wants.
Now back to mind over penis, I find the more I concentrate on the woman the more I put aside my own pleasure. Sometimes you just can't help it is things are really feeling good. This is where you take what you learned from masturbation to the forefront. If you feel it coming on slow down. Wiggle inside of her for a bit until the feeling subsides. Try to steer clear of start and stop methods. My wife's previous lover, always did this. She said it was irritating. Once she started feeling good it was like he would pull the rug right out from under her.
I use to use the method above when I was younger to stop and prolong orgasms. Now that I am 38, I don't even have to think about it. I guess that is why I had to analyze what was going on when I was having sex with my wife the other night. Once I started writing this some of it I started remembering as I was writing. I hope this works for you or maybe a starting point for you to experiment and learn what helps you maintain.
Also if you are in a relationship. Discuss it with them let them know about this technique and that you are trying it out. Their understanding will go a long way in helping you overcum I mean not precum... I mean overcome your testicles... obstacles.
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