[dancingdoc2]

> But for some reason it really phases him, he could be just about to come but if he pulls out of me it'll just throw him.

Does it through his "game" any more than if he just paused in the normal course of stroking, or, if you pause what you have been doing before continuing?

> We can manage if I use my mouth but even that takes a bit of effort.It's not just the case of putting him in my mouth I'll actually have to give him oral for quite a while, that's despite the fact that he's usually on the verge of finishing when he pulls out. He'd obviously prefer to keep doing it, but I wonder if its something he could get the hang of.

Have you been to the Index and read the article all about this and how to solve the matter? Sarah, you've been a member of the community for a year and a half, I'm surprised this is a problem still waiting to be solved. All that should be required is a bit of "show and tell". I speak a lot about sex being a partnership of doing for and not to... and of communication being key. The article explains the necessity of showing how to stimulate each other and how to communicate how we are responding and for what we need now/next. Please read the article and put the tools described into practice. Let us know how it works for you.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?