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It is a mix of biology and sociology.
A woman who sleeps around is seen as a nasty slut with low self-esteem who's giving it away for free while a man who sleeps around is only seen as one who follows his biological imperative to inseminate as many as possible.
But it isn't as simple as that.
In her 20's a woman is hunting for a mate/husband and trying to have her children so her drive is high. During her 30's she's too busy raising the kids (etc.) to think about sex much. In her 40's, the kids are grown and out of the house and her situation is changing with menopause and usually this means her sex drive ramps up tremendously.
In his 20's, a man can get it up easily. But this is not always the case after he hits 40. Men in domestic situations also have lower testosterone levels - meaning when he has a wife, his drive decreases.
Then there's the effect of history: if she hasn't had an orgasm from this man in 20 years of marriage - yeah - her interest in sex is none. Yes, it works both ways but few men have trouble cumming. Perhaps there was abuse early on that was not addressed. Perhaps there are medical reasons involved.
They could be perfectly fine now but since sex begins in the brain, well, they may equate sex with something painful or shameful.
But it may all come down to power politics: she has what he wants and will make him work to get it. She knows the kids are hers but he doesn't.
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