After my son was born, my sex life went down the pan. Not because I didn't want it anymore, but because I didn't like the way my body looked anymore. It took me a long time to admit that this was the problem. I went from being a lights on, clothes off kind of girl, to a clothes on lights off kind of girl. It was horrible. Take some time, EvilEvilKitten has some great advice. As does Buck, its amazing how much we appreicate a bit of help around the house
Make her feel desireable, attractive, sexy. I'm still slim-ish, just a little more 'softer round the edges' lol. I had to learn what worked for my post pregnancy body...maybe a night with a nice bottle of wine, talking, gentle touching...opening up to each other?
I could be totally wrong but it worked for me...confidence is the key to a healthy sex life for me.