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You have a very common problem.
You wife has lost herself in the pressures of motherhood. Her inhibitions have returned. Her past training is rearing its ugly head. She is no longer free to be that sexual woman you married.
Except that she is - it is just buried.
To fix this situation:
1. pay attention to her workload and her stress-levels.
2. make sure that the household is peaceful, calm, and under control yet fun
3. schedule time for you and her to be alone without the kids
for example: after dinner and the kitchen is cleaned, the kids have 1 to 2 hours to get themselves into bed, after that you two get to sit together on the porch or snuggle on the sofa - something like that. Take the dog for a walk - both of you. A nice slow lingering arm-in-arm walk, of course.
Once a month go dancing or soemthing mutually enjoyable and somewhat romantic.
4. Go find and read the sticky post entitled The Program. Take each step VERY slowly. Massage is a fine art, and it requires a lot of practice (wink wink nudge nudge) to get the skill down pat. Get a book, study, practice, practice, practice.
Step one alone may be enough to ignite her fires again. You never know your luck. The point is to work this slowly with evey step taking as much time as it takes and not moving onto the next too soon. She may, find her mind turning back to sex with Step Two or it may take Step Three. But keep going.
IF she askss what you're doing and why - tell her you miss her. Not that you miss the wild sex - no, no ,no - tell her you miss HER - that wild wicked DELIGHTFUL woman you KNOW lives within her. You entire "battleplan" is one where you INVITE your wife to reveal ALL of her desire.
And do NOT settle for anything less than that. This may be tough for you to do but try. All or nothing because if you keep settling for half-measures - you will ruin your credibility and never achieve your goal.
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