[the-wanting-one]

i would like to ask any women out there how to make sex more pleasurable after giving birth to children. Quick backstory- I met and fell in love with my wife 8 years ago. We had sex constantly, and had many firsts with each other, such as oral, tittyfucking (is there a better term for that, by the way?), shaving, toys, for example. After our 1st kid 4 years ago, things slowed down, but were still pretty good. SLight drop off after #2 came. Now , a year after our 3rd child, she rarely wants to have sex. There is a mental part to it, that I understand, and have tried to be patient about.

Physically she says sex usually doesn't feel good anymore. She says there is scar tissue down there that makes sex unpleasurable. When we have a sex, its missionary only. She takes off her panties and I get in and out. No hands allowed. No oral. I feel most times she's just giving me what she knows what I want so I'll leave her alone. That really sucks. I love her immensely and want her to enjoy sex as much as I do, and as much as she used to.

Are there any women out there in a similar position? Can you offer up any advice on how to make her more sensitive? She says being on top doesn't feel good at all, and is afraid to try our vibrating ring again. She also doesn't like talking about this, which is why I'm hoping somebody can help shed some light on how to improve things. Thanks to all and anyone.