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DLB said pretty much everything, except one thing which I will offer in addition...
When choosing a safe word, especially if (like myself and my girlfriend) you do not have years of experience, I think it's important to go out of your way to make it VERY CLEAR to your partner that if they say their safeword you will stop everything RTFN.
Saying this out loud and with emphasis will go a long way towards establishing the mental safety blanket that DLB talked about.
My girl and I have never needed to use our safeword (which is 'safe'), and I don't really expect that we will, but I feel better knowing that she has a way to unambiguously let me know that she wants to stop. Just in case. That way I never have to worry about whether or not she wants me to stop.
We don't use gags, so a gag signal hasn't been necessary. If we do start using gags, though, I think I'd probably go with something like '3 grunts in a row.'
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