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> I am always reaching orgasm by myself and yet havent had a guy to help me reach it all because Im a virgin still
Please explain what being a virgin has to do with with reaching an orgasm. If you can climax from masturbation, a guy can substitute his fingers for your with the same results. The only thing you have to add is to give him verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you need now. Feedback is missing when you turn the reins over to someone else.
If you mean by what you stated, above, that being a virgin has somehow kept you from finding a guy then this is so much nonsense. Unless you wear a sign or tell someone of your status, no guy will be able to tell whether you have or have never had intercourse.
> I have the sexual urges, alot, and cant seem to control my daydreams of being able to reach the peak with a certain someone. How should I control such urges, they seem to be getting harder to control.
Don't we all have these urges a lot. Guys fantasize all the time about a real or imagined person and/or scenario in order to embellish their arousal. Why should you be any different? That you want to have other fantasies, my advice is the same I give for people wanting to stop thinking about an ex--change your mind. In other words, if you do not want to be thinking about a particular fantasy, then stop, and change your mind to something else. This can be difficult to do, although, eventually you can do this very easily. Work at it over and over. You may have to turn off the scrip or change your mind several times in fifteen minuts or half an hour. Just keep plugging away.
> How should I control such urges, they seem to be getting harder to control.
Are you talking about not having sexual thoughts and not masturbating? If the latter, why? Many guys masturbate one or more times a day. If you enjoy the thoughts and the pleasure that comes from masturbating, then do it as often as you need or want to. No harm, no foul.
> Sometimes..I get the urge of pulling a guy over and well...you know..
Yea, I know. When guys answer the call of the wild and do this they get into serious trouble with the law. The age old remedy for this has always been to keep active and do things to keep your mind occupied. This is what we kept telling the boys. Combine being busy with changing your mind whenever thoughts of whatever play in your head and you'll have the tricks to make changes; although, not quickly. This takes time and practice.
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