Originally Posted by aneumann336
thank you for taking the time to post back to me. What u said made a lot of sense, and im glad to hear it from someone who has a lot more experience in life then my friends of the same age.
You are very welcome. This is what we do here--"pay it forward" in order to hopefully make it easier for those coming up thru the ranks than it was for those of us who have gone before.
you are right she is a full time student in college, and works at the same time.
Yup! no time is the plate fuller than it is during the college days when you have school, homework, work, and, a relationship, all the while learning the needed life skills. Coping.
But its not like i don't work either. I work 63 hours a week to make the money needed.
I commend your willingness to put forth the effort on all fronts. You are on the right track. All the best....
As far as some of your question that u asked me. I help out around the house a lot. she rarely cleans or cooks. We spend a lot of time at least an hour hour and half every day cuddling watching TV together.
Keep up the good work. Kissing, hugging, cuddling, all help mellow the feminine wilds. Keep on keeping on. You'd be surprised at how many guys only pay attention when they want one thing. Help out with chores and daily obligations? These oafs believe this is woman's work. Theirs is to work on cars and hang with their friends.
I am very happy that she climaxes every single time.
This is definitely good, although, please understand that unlike for the male of the species, orgasms are not a requirement for females of the species. There is much to read on the female orgasm listed in the Index. It is more important to focus on making love to her mind, first and foremost. The physical aspects that are the outward expression of the love you share, will take care of itself, except as you have outlined.
I try to take my time and do some foreplay i perform oral, finger her, and she loves it. but she will only let me do it for like 10 minutes then want to start having sex.
Let's define some terms.
* Fooling around and Making out-- umbrella terms for all that follows
* Necking-- kissing and caressing above the shoulders
* Petting-- Kissing and caressing all over except for the breasts and genital areas
* Heavy Petting-- All of the above to include undoing and removing clothing
* Foreplay-- All of the above including focusing on the breasts and genitals
Making out is progressive in its progress. We begin with A, move on to B, add C, revisit A & B, add D, and so on and on. There is continuity from one part to the next.
If like a lot of people nowadays, lumping everything into the category of "foreplay" then your ten minutes does not generally provide enough stimulus to arouse a woman to a high level.
If you are mostly doing foreplay to the exclusion of all the necking and petting, then you definitely need to learn how to make love in all of its various aspects. I recommend reading the articles on all this listed in the Index.
Making love can and does sometimes proceed quickly without much fanfaire and this is why the term "Quicky". Couples often do extend their love making for hours; and then, there is every time span in between depending upon what you want and have the time for each occasion. I'll let you decide whether or not you are on the right track or if she is stopping herself short.
The thing that sucks is, i always make sure she climaxes first every single time.
OH! this should not suck. You are absolutely correct to help her climax first and last. In between the two of you can enjoy as many orgasms as you want or have time for. This is good etiquette. Decades ago "simultaneous orgasms" were all the rage; no more. We now understand that very few sexual positions place a woman's pieces-parts in constant ongoing contact with the man's pubic mound sufficient to build to a climax. What a knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner. You are doing everything right if you are doing these things for her.
And after she climaxes she just wants me to finish, no matter how long it actually took. Sometime it take 5 minutes, sometimes its 30 minutes, but we have never had sex over 45 minutes(including foreplay).
I believe some realignment is suggested. Five minutes to your climax is good. Many women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten that they become sore, bored, and, tired! If it takes thirty minutes of stroking to reach an orgasm, then I strongly recommend that you pull out after about five and go back to basics in order to rebuild your level of arousal. Intercourse should begin (again) when you have reached your peak yet still have enough control to move around and get into position.
Many women many times can enjoy multiple orgasms after a brief recovery period. You can certainly try to help her enjoy more in between any two of yours, or, to coincide with one of yours.
And i know she enjoys when she quivers and get goose bumps all over her body. And i have to finish myself. I'm not a selfish guy at all. I love pleasuring her and watching her enjoy it.
As an alternative to masturbating for her, encourage her to help you climax once in a while. Go back to foreplay and finish with this stage. You can learn more about this also from an article on the subject also listed in the Index.
I'm gonna take your advise and see how things go the next couple months. you never know things may turn around. If you have any further advise after the info i just gave please help. Im all ears!
Thanks,
Andy
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