[EvilEvilKitten]

ALWAYS wear a condom - period!

It is extremely inconsiderate to not be prepared whether you're shooting blanks or not - immaterial - and you'd deserve it if the woman threw you out right then and there. YES, it is THAT serious. The incidence of sexual transmission from oral is both low and possible so coondoms are required and yes, female condoms are available for use during cunnilingus.

Next - you're 20 years older and you have limited experience and probably limited sexual skills based upon only one partner. And it is a snake-pit out there. Unsuitable women, unsuitable men, and everyone chasing the few who are suitable. You are going to have to compete - this includes in the bedroom.

At first, you will not be "choosy" or "picky" and may get yourself unhappily partnered because you followed your penis and put your brain on hold. You will be out for fun and to heal your ego.

That being said - you can find yourself with the right women if you give yourself time and use your brain when making your choices. Think who you are and what you have to offer; who you want and what you're looking for; and what kind of life you want to live - BEFORE you go out hunting.

If in doubt - consult your local swing/Lifestyle group and make friends there. They will talk about sex and relationships at great length and in great detail to anyone who will listen.

Good luck!