[Brandye]

OK, zorb, relax. You know very little and have transmitted less. It is time for you and your partner to sit down with the doctor together. Having been raised in the most sexually repressive corner of the universe, I recognize your fear and embarrassment. The facts are quite different about who contracts STDs and how.

The county health facility, school clinic, any women's clinic will have information packets on all STDs and their transmittal. Read those and screen out all the crap you have heard from friends and relatives. Perhaps the same clinic can set up a counseling session for the two of you where everything can be logically addressed.

Write out a list of questions you may have and put them all to the doctor/counselor. Get facts and get out of the world of rumour and half-truths. My guess is that you will feel much better about yourself and will discover that the limitations you face are much less than you think. This thread could grow to three miles long dealing with the misinformation in little bits. Sit down with a professional and get it all straight. The diagnoses that each of you have received is very helpful so that your advisor knows exactly what is being dealt with.

You have dealt with "free" information thus far and it has gotten you quite worked up. You can have no more confidence in the free information here than in what you heard in the dorm. Whilst there are knowledgeable people on this Board, there has been some really bad advice over the years. Get the straight information from someone you trust.