[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay - time for you to know how to run this from someone who does it - me.

First - the concept is SHARING and the title is Friend With Benefits, the benefits being sex. Yes, she needs to be a friend of you both, and not just inside the bedroom.

You have been asked to open up a closed marriage - and this is fine if BOTH spouses are ready for it. Unfortunately, you don't really know until your try it if they are ready for it. So be prepared for further discussions between you two.

If your wife cannot go up to another lady and say, in effect, "My husband would like you to have his number." then she's not really ready for this. In truth, you never go hunting alone; she has to like the lady as well- but as a friend; and you must reserve something sexual for your wife alone.

Find and go hang out and talk with your local Swing/Lifestyle group. BOTH of you together. In person discussions with those who participate will help you both see if this being open is for you.

For the record - I swing and my husband does not but is fine with it - within certain limits, which of course have been mutually agreed upon.