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Originally Posted by gatorman
The challenge at this point is even getting to a point where we can talk about it.
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My wife would far rather not 'talk'. So would I, for that matter. It's much more comfortable that way. I've nearly always been the one initiating difficult conversations, not because I want to distress my wife, but because I'm desperate for change. Since the impetus comes from me, it often seems as though I'm pestering her. I recently suggested having regular appraisals of where we are in our lives, sexually and otherwise, that we could take turns initiating, in the hope of greater balance, and shared responsibility, for the good as well as the bad, perceived or otherwise.
Although this sort of talking is uncomfortable, it's necessary, I feel, to combat inertia, which often shields misunderstanding and resentment.
We are like you, in that
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Originally Posted by gatorman
In all other aspects we have a great bond/relationship and we do lots of non-sexual things together.
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It's frustrating, isn't it?
Good luck, anyway!