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Hi Mad Mike,
The Squeeze Technique seems to have a marvelous track record otherwise I doubt that it would be the technique most recommended by sex therapists. It does not, however, work for everyone.
I have found that the Grunt Technique works much better.
grunt technique - the man mimics the action of trying to pass a difficult stool and grunts in the same manner actually eases the tension in the ejaculatory apparatus thus allowing him to postpone ejaculation for a while. At first you might want to stop thrusting. If she asks what's going on, especially what the grunting is about, you can tell her. After you have done it a few times you know the muscles and don't have to actually grunt. With practice you should be able to postpone ejaculation and possibly ( in my case it happened) separate ejaculation from orgasm thus allowing yourself to have more orgasms in a session.
I should add that just because it worked for me doesn't mean it will work for you. Your mileage may vary, as they say.
While it is true that premature ejaculation is statistically the most common male sexual dysfunction, at least in younger men, I am beginning to suspect that we tend to be misled and misinformed about what is a realistic ( and more importantly pleasurable) duration for a single act of coitus. Popular magazines, pornographic media and cultural myths lead us to believe that in order for a man to be a good lover he should have extremely long lasting erections during sex and take a long time to reach orgasm.
I have found over the years that women who are sexually secure reach orgasm about as quickly and easily as men. Taking a long time to reach orgasm does not make a man a good sex partner. Knowing how to help his partner reach orgasm and make her orgasm more enjoyable and being able to allow her to reciprocate in a way that is mutually enjoyable are some of the things that make a man a good sex partner. If you can go 20, 30, 45 minutes consistently and you and your partner find it consistently fulfilling then fine. Most coital acts probably last somewhere between 3 and 10 minutes. Unless the purpose is a quickie 3 minutes preceded by lots of foreplay and afterplay works pretty well for a lot of people. If the purpose is a quickie 10 minutes seems a little long.
Squeeze technique, grunt technique and other therapies can help some men who have a clinical dysfunction or who simply want to stay in the saddle longer. In the end I have found that the greatest aid to prolong coitus is to stop worrying about how long I am lasting and just enjoy the moment.
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