how about some guidance with flight planning?
What I mean by this is in learning or relearning or tweaking what you know about how to romance a woman, make love to her from the thought of a "flight" to the actual takeoff. Much has been written and there is much to learn about all this in
the Index found at the top of the main screen.
Planting the idea of an adventure often begins the morning of or even day before by saying something or giving her a card with the idea of making love in it. Learn how to romance a woman and get her interested in and thinking about making love with you later. Once you have her attention, learn how to fool around and make out. There is much to do before getting to the Foreplay stage. Much time needs to be devoted to Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, all before Foreplay, and then all of this during oral and a hand job, then, finally, intercourse.
I believe much can be learned by reading the many articles listed in the Index. At the very least, they will provide plenty of background information and any knowledge is empowering. If your wife is at all interested in spicing up her sex life and yours as a couple, you can do a lot with these articles, first. I would also recommend some books on the subject. Go to the library and find some on relationships.
When a relationship is not working well, sex is 90% of the reason, yet when it is working, sex is 10% of the reason. This is why I am placing more emphasis on the relationship than the actual sex. (Re)learn how to woo and wow her and play to her emotions, her psyche, and her desirability. Making love has more to do with a woman's emotions than the physicality of the process.