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Hey Bouledoux,
You are squarely within the majority of married men as the great majority of women do not and will not administer BJs. Many will not even perform fellatio as foreplay, much less carry all the way to orgasm. Yes, I know that is of no comfort to you, but I just had to say it.
The therapist was honest with you and did the correct thing. Sex therapists do not treat sexual tastes or preferences. They treat dysfunctions : impotence, premature ejaculation, lack of desire and anorgasmia for example. Neither you or your wife suffer those. A relationship counselor might be what you need, but it sounds to me as is that's not going to help at this point.
This is a tough one and if I had the solution to the problem I would not be sharing it freely here. Let's see, $100 ( does that sound cheap? ) X 3,000,000,000 men who can't get a BJ....
Not laughing yet? OK, try this approach - Don't mention oral sex to your wife. Don't ask for it, don't offer it. Work on every other aspect of your sexual relationship. Get really good at sensual massages. Learn,discover or invent some new positions for coitus. Make everything about sex without fellatio or cunnilingus the best it can possibly be.
Now, have you ever thought that oral sex might be more than just fellatio and cunnilingus? What about kissing? What about licking, suckling,nibbling and kissing of ears, feet, hands, breasts, buttocks and any other part of the body-except genitals. All of these things can be highly stimulating. Just don't tell your wife that this is also oral sex. Maybe after a year or so of doing what I suggest in the this paragraph and the one preceding it you can gently coax her to some foreplay involving fellatio. If you are extremely lucky she might even give you a blow job. If it doesn't happen don't freak out. Remember you are in good company. Most men don't get BJs. Many men don't even get laid.
Still thinking -yeah, yeah, yeah, but what I want is a blow job? I think Brandye's prostitute acquaintances have it right. If other women-wives, girlfriends, mistresses- gave BJs prostitutes would be out of business. My wife has even known women who said, " Oral sex? That's what prostitutes are for." So if you are the type who has a moral aversion to prostitutes and BJ buddies Remember:. Most men don't get BJs. Many men don't even get laid.
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