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BuckNaked,
The problem is, I don't believe "That's who she is". It's more like "That's who she thinks she ought to be." The therapist went bananas when I suggested this, and my wife scoffs when I repeat it; but I'm convinced in her heart of hearts she enjoys oral sex - at the very least, being on the receiving end. She's mentioned before that she could only have done it when 'out of control', and it's true, she's far less prone nowadays to becoming out of control when we make love. She's silent, whereas once she made a lot of noise; and she's noticeably unwilling to enter into a sexual trance, preferring to remain somewhat detached.
However right you may be about it being a time "to let it go", the trouble is, 'it' seems to be very much a part of me. As George Melly said, after losing his sex drive, "It’s like being unchained from a lunatic".
Brandye,
No, there is no way a condom would solve things. The degrading, humiliating, unnatural element she finds in fellatio would only be emphasised that way.
If it was just taste, oral sex in the shower or bath would be an obvious solution.
Another therapist is always a possibility; but somehow we feel it should be within our capacity to solve this on our own.
Thanks for the replies, anyway, folks.
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