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Being tongue-tied, and verbally klutzy are phases we all go through. Not to worry. Another problem we sometimes suffer from is saying something without thinking, first. If this ever happens, immediately tell the person "well, that came out wrong, I apologize" and then go on to say it correctly.
Girls are chatty creatures by nature. All we fellas have to do is ask a question or bring up a topic of discussion and then stand back, listen, and take mental notes. You can then interject a question here and there--and, wa la, you have an ongoing conversation.
Years ago I had a boss who gave me great advice: "Plan your work and work your plan." This was for running a business more effectively. So, let's change the wording to: "Plan your talk and talk your plan--meaning, think about topics you'd like to talk about or questions you'd like to ask a few hours before getting together; then, when you do see her and get all weak in the knees and your tongue mysteriously gets into a "knot", you can then recall what it is you want to say because it has been preplanned.
As you ask your girlfriend questions, and she begins chatting, and you take mental notes for questions or comments to interject and add to the conversation, you will no doubt learn that in addition to extending the topic of conversation, the conversation will take a different turn and so it goes.
When the time comes to share information about yourself, do so freely and honestly, although, do not spill all the beans at one time. Dole out information a little at a time over time and in this way you will have more to talk about down the road. Besides, if you keep her guessing and wondering what more there is to know about you, she will be interested in asking you questions and just hangin' around wanting more..... How nice is that?
Girls usually understand the we can be awkward at times. It is not that you stumble, it is how you pick yourself up and go on that matters.
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