[EvilEvilKitten]

This is a classic case - of a man who is not willing to do what is necessary to get the relationship he wants. Yes, you do not want to upset her, yadda, yadda, yadda, but you cannot make omelets without breaking some eggs.

So, sit down and ask her what's going on because, for you, this relationship is becoming bleaker and sadder. Ask her what sex means to her. Ask her to describe her sexuality. How was she raised? What have her past experiences been like? Listen to what she says and try to see the isue from her viewpoint.

Then explain how this seems to you; how you feel about this lack of sex. Tell her what physical intimacy means to you. Try to get her to see this from your viewpoint.

And then go find, read, and then do The Program (see above).
Fire her up, assist her to multiple orgasms, and take the time to helpp her find and embrace her sexuality.

Now, if all of this does not work - you should leave her. If all of this doesn't work - only professional therapy will.