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welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, Joe. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to information.
The condition you describe seems to me to be a case of Performance Anxiety. If so, the fix is to quite literally stop worrying about all the what ifs floating around in your head. (I know, easier said than done.) The more we worry, the worse the situation tends to become. This is a self fulfilling prophecy in which we are our own worst enemy.
Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. If you are trying to perform, my recommendation is to relax and just let your romantic evening unfold without pressure. So, instead of trying to get to the finish line, fall back and just work on the Necking, Petting, and Heavy Petting, before ever getting to the Foreplay stage. Arouse each other (and this means you, too) to a high degree before having her bringing yourself to the brink of an orgasm.
The "chemistry" between you should make your penis feel like it cannot grow any more and will burst. If you normally do lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking in order to reach the brink of an orgasm then you are going about things backwards. This is the reason for all the fooling around before getting to the h/j and b/j of foreplay. Proceed slowly and deliberately and build the passion, the excitement, the expectation, first and foremost.
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