[EvilEvilKitten]

Terribly sorry but you have made a poor decision in marrying this man. Trading in your future children for a current man? Not a good choice - ever. Because people change their minds. Midlife hits a man and he has no children - now he wants them and there you are unable to have them.

It takes courage to be open and honest with your mate and his lack of this essential courage is astounding. Love him if you must but, frankly, it is time to let him go, as difficult as that may be. You simply cannot rely upon him.
Sorry, dear. But next time - stick to your guns.

This is precisely why I recommend being 'demanding' during courtship. Now what you want in life. Picture it in your mind 30, 40 years down the road being realistic. If this man doesn't have what such a life requires, and it can be hard to tell, then let him go and move on. The time to be nice is after you've married the man not before.