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Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative, insightful as well as how-to articles. I strongly urge that the two of you, individually or together, read most if not all of the articles.

It is OK to be nervous--who isn't. So, that said, you are normal.
It is OK to be apprehensive--but do not be scared, be informed. Knowledge is empowering and this is why I have asked you to read the articles listed in the Index.

Lastly, do not be in a big rush to get to the finish line. Take a few weeks or months and explore the various aspects of fooling around and making out before ever moving on to Foreplay and eventually intercourse.

Do each of these steps when it feels right. Do not rush in just because you feel you have to or have to keep up with a friend and his exploits.

This is very important to understand: Relationships are partnerships in which two people come together because they want to and because they want something better out of life than the sum of the individual independently. Making love is also a partnership in which two people explore and learn together. It is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other.

So, take your time, fooling around, necking, petting, and so on and when it feels right to move on whether it is a month or six, then take it to the next level, not before. Learn what is required of you to arouse a woman, emotionally as well as physically. It is much different that what is required of a guy. Work together, talk about what you have learned and experienced, and decide as a team what to do next and perhaps when. Keep in mind, also, that women set the boundaries for how far to proceed. The absolute worst approach is to be in such a "need" to have intercourse that you do it before either of you are ready or fully prepared.

Begin reading the articles listed in the Index and then talk about them, negotiate any differences in likes and dislikes or preferences, and then work together to make your first sexual experience successful. Note: the first few times will probably not be all that satisfying, or, painless, or ORGASMIC. Don't expect much the first few times. There is a learning curve that the two of you must climb together and in partnership.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?