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Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten
Actually I disagree WSO - since neither gender needs the other for survival/gain/fun - the ONLY reason to wed & stay married is for love.
Of course, loving your spouse does not preclude a person from enjoying sex with another person. The point is to separate the physical from the emotional.
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Does our species not need both members of the sexes to come together for time to mate and raise their offspring? I realize that this is far less true than it was during earlier times (say like 20,000 years ago, or even 5,000 years ago), but this does seem to be how our species evolved and survived down through the ages. Nowadays, you are likely more right than wrong, in that the only reasonably reason to get and stay married for love. However, I think the love of which you speak is exceedingly rare, or at least uncommon.
It also seems to appeal solely to hedonism (i.e. making myself happy). Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I'm not sure that we as a society, or whichever group of people one belongs to, is particularly well served by such a sentiment gaining widespread traction. Also, if people think they are in love and then find out there are not, what effect does that have on the individuals involved? Their children? Their extended families? Etc. I know this sounds a bit glib, but real hardship, economic, social and emotional does result from divorce. I suggest that to the extent that one bases marriage solely on something potentially so whimsical as "love" and the real harm that results from a divorce when that "love" is gone (as seems to happen all too often), one is doing a real disservice to oneself, one's nearby fellows (family and friends) and one's group or tribe as a whole (society if you will).
Or am I just talking out of my a$$?