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Originally Posted by Brandye
OK, I am bi- and so is my usual partner. We have been thus for a very long time.
The psychology of lesbianism is very complex. There are those who want the full variety of pleasures including penetration. They tend to be more open (no pun) to exploration of female parts. There are those who are in partial denial of being women. They tend to avoid those experiences that identify them as female - vaginal penetration is clear signal of being a woman.
This could be an amazing discussion between you or with a helper (counselor) exploring the meaning of being a woman. My g/f and I, many years ago, learned much about one another searching for our G-Spots.
Then, we could both be identified as lipstick lesbians and are each amenable to heterosexual experience.
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Thanks for the advice!
She definitely identifies as a lipstick lesbian. We are both very femme. (The type that most people won't know we're gay unless we tell them otherwise.)
That may be the issue. We always joke around and I'll say jokingly "Yeah I wear the pants." And she will jokingly argue, but in the bedroom, she is definitely the dominant one, and that's the only role she's willing to take, but to me, sometimes I want more, but I don't want to make her do something she's not either going to be comfortable doing, or something she won't enjoy. Because if she doesn't enjoy it, I don't enjoy it. I just can't help wanting to do those things to her, obviously, I'm a lesbian too, and yeah - I like when she uses a strap-on and I like when she goes down on me (she lets me go down on her too, but it's not very often because she orgasms very easily, so it's pretty much over before it starts), if anything, I'll get her all hot and bothered and sometimes, when she's close, then I'll go down on her. It just seems like I'm really open to letting her do whatever gets her going, but I'm afraid to ask for the same.
Maybe we just need to have a conversation about it, and maybe I just need to explain to her that certain things just really get me going, and I would really like to do certain things to her.
Maybe we'll have that conversation this week. She's off Tues and Weds so we'll see what happens.
Thanks again.