[Brandye]

OK, I am bi- and so is my usual partner. We have been thus for a very long time.

The psychology of lesbianism is very complex. There are those who want the full variety of pleasures including penetration. They tend to be more open (no pun) to exploration of female parts. There are those who are in partial denial of being women. They tend to avoid those experiences that identify them as female - vaginal penetration is clear signal of being a woman.

This could be an amazing discussion between you or with a helper (counselor) exploring the meaning of being a woman. My g/f and I, many years ago, learned much about one another searching for our G-Spots.

Then, we could both be identified as lipstick lesbians and are each amenable to heterosexual experience.