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Hello Jordan,
I have two thoughts for you:
T#1: The relationship may very well be over as Brandye suggests
T#2: A relationship and this includes the sex part, also, is not what
we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in
partnership. Explore and learn together.

Just in case there is hope for it, OR, for future reference, have you familiarized yourself with the Index, yet? There are many helpful insightful, and how-to, articles listed in there. I recommend that the two of you begin learning and working together.

> we promised to always be honst with each other.

Honestly!, this is easier said than done, especially for males of the species. We constantly bump up against our "Fragile Male Ego" and/or hope that problems will magically fix themselves, especially if we don't think about them.

> i told him i was having problems with the way things were going, that i wasn't cuming after that

This is a portion of a run-on sentence. What do you mean by this?

Each person, male and female, is responsible for his/her own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope for is to help our partner achieve them. That said, there is information in some of the articles that discuss this matter further and also tell you what is needed by the other person in order to get to an orgasm.

> I told him that as long as we were having sex i was going to be happy.

This is a nice thought, although, wishful thinking. If a relationship is successful and working then sex is only ten percent of the reason. If a relationship is in trouble, sex is ninety percent of the reason.

If you have trust and "connection" issues, then the two of you must either decide as a team to work on this and attempt to make it work, or, make plans to end the relationship and move on to the next contender. This is how dating is supposed to work.

Here is my game plan for the two of you:

* If he is willing to put forth the effort and work with you in an attempt to make the relationship better then begin by reading not only the articles listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen, but some books at the library on relationships.

* If he is not willing, then say good bye, because he has already checked out, or, his is not willing or able to do what it takes to be an active partner.

If this is the case, then, again, this is what dating is all about and how it is supposed to work. Dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us; dating is all about learning what humanity has to offer us so that when Mr./Ms. Right does come along we will be better able to recognize the person. We will have also experienced a lot of other characters, likes, dislikes, whims, goals, values, etc. in people in order to help us see what is important to us in the future.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?