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Originally Posted by Ephemera
What's the safe word?
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A "Safe Word" when expressed is a word that is used to immediately put a stop to what one or both of you are doing--no questions asked. Stopping is akin to a cease and desist order and should not, must not, be taken lightly.
When one of you has reached a limit of stimulation or the pursuit of some activity and have had quite enough and do not believe you can continue, or want to, then this word can be used to bring everything to an immediate hands off halt. For this to work, neither of you must say to yourself "I'll stop in a second or two"--whatever. Trust, therefore is a major requirement.
Use of a safe word gives both individuals the freedom to explore and to expand what they want to try or do all the while knowing that these actions will never get out of hand. A word to the wise: DO NOT abuse or flagrantly disregard the use of a safe word. To do so can and usually will break the trust between a couple, or at the very least, severely damage the bond. Once trust is damaged and/or broken, it is often difficult to impossible to repair. Your relationship can suffer by being cavalier and adopting a dismissive attitude. If your relationship is important to you, do not mess with safe words and their purpose for being.
A safe word must be some word or nonsense word the two of you agree upon that is never used in general conversation. Words and phrases like "stop", "STOP!", "don't do that", "quit that"; "no more, please; etc. should not be used. By not using these words, any or all can then be used in the script of your sex play if desired.
HINT: "Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious" {from the movie: "Sound of Music" ) is a nonsense word that is never used in general conversation, however, it is also too lengthy to be used safely. Please be practical when making a selection as a safe word is extremely important not to mention time-sensitive in its implementation.